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Do You Believe in Second Chances?

By Nicki On January 20, 2013 2 Comments

LanceArmstrong_18102012_BPThanks to the Oprah interview, all the speculation about Lance Armstrong and doping charges have been confirmed. Though many people including me, thought for years that he was probably guilty of illegally enhancing his performance, I’m always willing to give people the benefit of the doubt. Clearly my belief in a celebrated hero gone bad, made me stand back and reevaluate my thoughts on this mess.

There’s a saying, “The bigger you are the harder you fall,” and there’s no better example of that than with Lance Armstrong. About six years ago, I met the cycling champ and found him to be rude, cocky and clearly taken with himself. But, that was my experience and in his defense it was a huge fundraiser, he looked tired, and perhaps he was having a bad day.

So when all of this discussion about doping charges came out, I couldn’t help but think of my experience with him and honestly, I had little if any sympathy for him. But the truth is,  do we really have the right to judge someone when we neither know their story or their motives?

I heard an interview with Mark Wahlberg, (dreamy)  a couple of days ago and he said something that gave me pause. He was asked about his feelings regarding the faux Tour de France champ and he said, “Look, everyone deserves a second chance. I know I was given a second chance and it changed my life.”

I’m a proponent of second chances. I have seen people go through some pretty rough times and given an opportunity for a do over, they made a positive, powerful impact on the lives of others. So should the same courtesy be given to Armstrong?

There’s an awful lot of people that he screwed over.  There are a number of sponsors, teammates and fans that feel terribly betrayed. The fact that he’s a grown man makes the situation a little more prickly after all, shouldn’t he have known better? And then of course there are his children, what about them? What kind of teasing and chastising will they receive at the hand of those that are happy for the fall of this once revered champion?kirstin-armstrong_2456385b

I think this is a teaching moment. I believe that if someone has a second chance and fully realizes the damage that’s been done and is able to somehow make things right and go on and live a productive life, it’s worth a shot.

Who am I to say he should go bankrupt and be left out on the street? That’s not what our country is about, that’s not what being human and compassionate is about. Someone asked me before if a murderer or rapist should have a second chance? I can’t answer that because it stirs up a completely different set of emotions and circumstances which I’m not willing to touch.

Armstrong has done a pretty terrible thing, but he didn’t kill anyone.  He has lied and cheated his way to the top seemingly without  conscience. Perhaps there’s some mental illness going on there, perhaps it’s simply an ego that was so big, no one, not even Armstrong could control. And then of course there’s the power and money thing. When people are making a lot of money off of others, they want that meal ticket to keep providing, so there are plenty of greedy folks willing to help keep a lie alive in order to keep their wallet filled.

But again, it’s about second chances. I’m terribly disappointed to see someone that I admired turn out to be nothing but a great big faker. However, we can’t forget that his LiveStrong organization has raised an enormous amount of money for cancer. I can’t take that away from him nor can anyone else. So out of all of this, there was something positive. Perhaps that was the one truth in his life that kept him justifying all of the other stuff.

I hope he moves on, gets the counseling he needs and is able to somehow make things right with his fans, sponsors, coaches and teammates and most important, his family.

I know that if this were my son, I would hope that he would be given a second chance. But that’s a mother speaking, not those that have lost millions by his lies. Though at the end of the day, what’s more important, a life or money?  I know what I think, what about you?

Here’s to never wishing for more time, rather making the most of it!



Oprah’s Next Talk Show Host?

By Nicki On June 23, 2010 No Comments
Back in 2000 with Oprah. Hmm, shorter hair for both of us!

Back in 2000 with Oprah. Hmm, shorter hair for both of us!

For years I have done my best to inspire others to believe that they can do anything they desire to do. Desire being the operative word here. For years I  have encouraged those who thought whatever goal they wished for, could be done if they’re willing to take the chance, take the risk and see it through. For me, part of my passion is not only encouraging others to believe and achieve their goals, but to continue reaching for more beyond the initial goal.  The joy of  life is realizing that despite what you may believe or what others may have told you, there are no limits. Life is full of opportunities and there are those who will risk taking the steps to achieve those opportunities while others will play it “safe.”

I don’t believe that success is discriminatory, on the contrary, success is an equal opportunity endeavor. No matter what you dream, no matter what you wish for, if you desire it and believe that the steps necessary to acquire it are worth taking, the sky is the limit.

With that in mind, know that opportunities abound, no matter where you are in your life or what you think you can achieve.

Last week, one of my trainers, Mary, said to me, “Hey Nicki, have you heard about Oprah’s new talk show? She’s looking for a new host. I think you’d be perfect for it.”  I smiled and thought to myself, “Yeah, well, that’s nice but I don’t do stuff like that. If I’m meant to do something like that, it will manifest itself in another way, not through some online pitch.” A few days later Mary asked if I had pursued the audition, I said, “No.”  She said again, “Nicki, you’re a natural for it, you’d be great.”  Again, I felt that it just wasn’t something I could do and I felt that there would be so many others auditioning, what would be the point?

Then I started thinking about all the people I’ve worked with or currently worth with. Every day I inspire them to take risks, do things that they thought they couldn’t do. And for all that I do to inspire others, perhaps it was time to inspire myself. So, I decided to do it. Like I tell my clients, “What’s the risk if you’ve got nothing to lose?”  So in order to walk my walk, and talk my talk, I decided to toss my hat in to the ring and audition for talk show host. After all, what do I have to lose? Absolutely nothing. What do I have to gain, absolutely everything. I figure even if I don’t get picked, the experience and the support from those that vote is affirmation that what I’m doing currently, is what sustains me and keeps me fulfilled. Anything above and beyond is icing on the cake.

So, I’m turning tables and asking for your help. I’m asking for your vote on Oprah’s “Own”. Check it out, who knows? Maybe you’ll want to send something in. But for now, I thank you in advance for your vote and know that it’s so appreciated.

Every day is an adventure! Thanks for sharing in mine!

In health,


410 Pound Weight Loss- Now That’s Inspiration!!

By Nicki On July 12, 2009 2 Comments

The media has been all a quiver with the story about 650 pound hermit, David Smith, 32 who recently lost 410 pounds with the help of his live-in personal trainer, Chris Powell. Aside from the luxury of having a personal trainer with him 24/7, David lost weight without pills, without diets, without surgery (other than corrective surgery for excess tissue).

Time to Start Thinking Differently About Weight Loss

By Nicki On May 31, 2009 3 Comments

This past week I had a consultation with a woman who has battled weight her whole life. After talking to me she said she’d sign up right away except she needs to talk to her husband. After she spoke to her husband, he wanted to meet with me and hear what I had to say that was different from the hundred other weight loss programs she had been on. My first thought was, “Wow, how’s that for support?” but then I realized that weight and acceptance is a big issue for women (and some men), they lament all the time, “Am I thin enough? Am I pretty enough? Do I look good to you?” etc. We can thank the media for creating insecurities in women, most of which are unwarranted. Bottom line, although Susan (name changed), has been suffocated with diet failures, her husband has been along for every painful ride.

Dieting is not just a one person issue, it affects not only the “dieter” but those surrounding the dieter. Chronic dieting affects families, friendships, spouses, sisters, mothers and daughters, etc. It can be relationship damaging, not only with others but with oneself, I see it all the time. Unfortunately, people don’t realize how toxic chronic dieting is until they sit down and talk to me. So what is different with what I do? I really don’t care about weight, yeah, I really don’t. Not that I don’t think people don’t need to lose unhealthy weight when they come in to see me, but it’s been their focus for years and to no avail. So why keep doing the same thing when the results are not forthcoming? Yet diet after diet, failure after failure, dieters keep coming back for more. So, when they come to me, I don’t focus on weight, period.

Well then, what is my strategy to help people lose weight? To be honest, I really don’t help them do that, what I help them do is change their perspective, their focus, their effort on to lifestyle change. You see, you will never, can never lose weight until you get past the weight and connect with the things that will positively affect it, right? You see, people have it wrong, they try to lose weight first and implement changes later, wrong-o! You must identify which unhealthy habits are currently a part of your life, figure out how, why, and when you’re going to change them. Words of advice? Take it slow. It took years to get where you are, allow the same patience as you change.

Another major mistake is folks try to change their life overnight, not possible if you want to make long term changes. Unfortunately, diets are sold like any other scam, they make promises of making your life perfect, loaded with everything you could dream of and then suck you in to buying it. If you’ll note at the bottom of any of these advertisements, diets or get rich quick schemes, you will see in very small print, *these results are not typical. People don’t read the fine print because they want to believe that this time is it, this time will do it. If it sounds too good to be true, it is, trust me. Even people like Oprah Winfrey and Ricky Lake are not exempt from being sucked in for all the wrong reasons.

So today, why not make the choice to focus on lifestyle, what practical changes you can make. Next, make a list of things that need changing and pick one to focus on for 30 days. Once you’re able to make the change and you realize it makes sense for you, then you can move on. You are then setting yourself up for success versus failure, it works trust me.

The hardest part of all of this? Believing you can change and getting rid of the weight focus. Look, weight loss has become a part of our culture, “everybody’s doing it!” but it is not good, it simply sets people up to fail time and time again. Weight loss is not what will make you successful, lifestyle changes will and that is a whole new way of thinking, so you’ll need some adjustment time.

Why not stop your diet tomorrow? Why continue to push yourself to achieve something that is unrealistic? Opt to set yourself up for success by allowing room for change, allowing time for change and allowing yourself to seek out great things for yourself that are possible. Talk about enhancing relationships, when you feel great so do those that love you.

Here’s to your success!

Confusing Thin With Healthy

By Nicki On May 28, 2009 1 Comment

This last week I

Here We Go AGAIN!

By Nicki On May 3, 2009 1 Comment

I can hardly stand it, yet another celebrity on national television sharing her weight crisis. You’ve probably heard by now, Kirstie Alley, actress, past Jenny Craig spokesperson, has found the weight she lost with Jenny Craig. Not only has she gained the weight back, she admits to staying away from exercise for over a year. Hmmm, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again and again and again, DIET’S DON’T WORK! Even if a company is paying you to lose weight, what happens when the money stops? Kirstie Alley has shown us. It’s like any diet, what happens when the motivation is gone, the wedding is over, the reunion has passed? Oprah has shown us. If you’re not buying in to the reason you’re changing your lifestyle, it won’t stick. If you’re not making changes that make sense for you and your lifestyle, weight loss won’t stick. If you’re restricting yourself so much that you are unable to achieve any sort of balance, weight loss won’t stick.

Amid all the tears and shame, Alley is saying that she believes after this experience, she has broken the weight loss code and will be revealing herself in 6 months or so, but she can’t reveal her secret. What? Are you kidding me? I know the secret, eat less and move more and do it in private. Stop putting the eyes on you as your sole motivation to lose weight……again. Ahh, but then Kirstie revealed she’d be writing a book about it, now I get it, another celebrity weight loss book. That makes perfect sense for those of us so immersed in a lifestyle like that of Kirstie Alley.

The most disappointing piece to this whole sordid weight loss debacle is that Oprah had Kirstie Alley on her show recently. Part of me “gets” Oprah’s reasoning, to let people know that weight gain happens, many times. But if you’re going to have someone like that on your show, why can’t you point out to the millions of people watching WHY Kirstie failed, why you have failed, why millions of people fail on diets every single day? There has yet to be ANYONE that delves in to the why, other that dietitians on news programs, but Oprah and the other celebrities seem to turn away from the straight up truth about weight loss. You know why? Because there’s not one clean answer, it’s different for everyone, yet Oprah and Kirstie Alley and the millions of others who have gained and lost weight think it should be easy and therefore when they fail, they feel like idiots, “Shouldn’t ANYONE be able to do it?” Yes, anyone can do it but not just anyone can keep the weight off and that is where we miss the boat. ANYONE can lose weight, but the maintenance piece is always missing from the average weight loss program.

Here are my thoughts on why the diet approach continues to fail for so many.

1. Expectations are incongruent with the work that needs to be done. No matter how much you may want to lose weight, if you’re not willing to do the work consistently to get the results you THINK you want, don’t even start. It’s about having realistic expectations. You think you should lose 50 pounds, perhaps start with 10 and go from there. High goals that are not congruent with what you’re willing or able to do (as well as genetics) will set you up for failure again and again. I see it all the time, people think they know what they want, but when they realize the work behind it they quit and once again view themselves as a failure. If expectations are realistic, the work to follow should be as well.

2. It’s all about the exterior. You cannot try to create perfection because you will fall short every time and falling short means quitting, quitting the diet. If I had a quarter for every woman that came to me wanting a flat stomach or thinner thighs (these are typically genetic things that can’t be changed), I’d be a wealthy woman. Because we see magazine covers and celebrities, many believe that is what they should look like, not good. Focusing on the exterior will often result in disappointment simply because change happens from the inside out. Therefore, focus on changing inside first, outside will follow.

3. All you think about is the weight loss, BIG MISTAKE! The more you focus on weight, the less you will focus on health, trust me. Those that weigh themselves consistently become so obsessed with the numbers, they’ll do anything to get the weight off such as skipping meals, counting points (often selecting unhealthy options), cutting calories dangerously low, etc. If you want to get to a healthy weight and be healthy for the long haul, stop weighing yourself and simply focus on making healthy lifestyle changes, move as often as you can and work everyday to eat as healthy as you can. Therefore, making lifestyle changes for your health, that is something that makes sense.

4. You use the scale, BIG MISTAKE! How many times have you been having a really great week, eating well, moving more? You get on the scale after two weeks, (after all you’ve been gaining weight for 20 years and in 2 weeks you expect your body to transform) and you weigh yourself, you’re down 1/4 of a pound and want to scream. Instead of screaming, you eat ice cream or go out for fast food or simply ditch any further effort to lose weight. I know, I’ve been there. You cannot rely on the scale to tell you how you’ve been doing in only 2, 3 or even 6 weeks. As women go through the various stages of life, they lose weight differently, I know it’s unfair, but it is what it is. The best thing that you can do is listen to your body, it will tell you how you’re doing, don’t let the scale dictate your success or failure.

Look, I’ve been following this diet stuff for over 20 years and nothing has changed. Diets simply help people lose weight but rarely, very rarely do diets teach people how to maintain a healthy weight. Sure, there may be maintenance programs, but the reality is that once the diet is over and the weight is lost, people don’t know how to assimilate back to normal life and that’s where the trouble starts. You see, people use food for many different reasons, coping mechanism, comfort, reward, punishment, etc. And until there are other methods of dealing with those issues, food will always remain the obstacle to gaining control over the health. So above and beyond moving more and eating less, perhaps discover what role food plays in your life and how you can change it. I tell my clients all the time, it took you a long time to gain the weight and change your lifestyle habits, give yourself the same patience in getting back to health. As a client of mine recently said to me, it’s brilliant, “Better to be patient, than a patient.”

Here’s to a healthy you, explore, discover and become your best.

Our Focus is Still Missing the Bull’s Eye

By Nicki On March 29, 2009 No Comments

I’m sure this past week you read about Valerie Bertinelli’s weight loss. If not, you were either hiding under a rock or wisely avoiding fluff news.

In case you missed it, according to People magazine, Valerie has done it! She has managed to drop 50 pounds and now graces the cover of People wearing a string bikini.

Bertinelli was on the Today show this past week talking about achieving her goal of wearing a bikini at 48 years old. If you recall, a few years ago it was Kirstie Alley that was the Jenny Craig spokeswoman. Then she told women everywhere, “You can change anything you want, at any time.” She even went on the Oprah show wearing a bikini showing off her “svelte” body.” She made fun of being fat and swore she would never go back there again. Never say never.

Recent paparazzi shots of Kirstie Alley prove that she has “gone back there.” There’s a part of me that is sad for her, but there’s also a part of me that knows she made bank when she decided to go with Jenny Craig and share her weight issues with the world. And of course we know that Oprah has “gone back there” many times over and continues to share with the world, “I don’t know what happened.”

Well, I do, it’s weight loss for all the wrong reasons, simple as that. The truth is anyone can lose a lot of weight for money. If someone told me tomorrow that I’d get a million dollars if I dropped 20 pounds, I’d do it but I’d never be able to stay there, that I know.

Thanks to Hollywood’s thin obsession, we continue to miss the boat over and over again. Losing weight has become a full time job for some, for others a dangerous hobby. The reason that success is consistently short lived is because it’s all about weight, nothing else. When the weight is dropped it’s “party time” but during the partying, there is no one keeping an eye on the bad habits that are sneaking back in and before they know it, BAM, the weight is back, and they’re saying, “I don’t know how it happened?”

You cannot pay attention just to weight, it’s a myriad of things including health and whatever motivational component that is important enough to keep you on task. Obviously, health is not a strong enough motivator or perhaps just not touted enough.

For those that successfully keep weight off, it’s often due to fear. I know when I lost my 50 pounds, the idea of feeling miserable, tired, and chronic discomfort was my reason for not gaining it back. I didn’t keep the weight off to be more attractive, or to brag about wearing a size 2, sure it helped, but I kept it off for my future. It’s unfortunate that the population at large just don’t seem to get it.

Do I really care that Valerie Bertinelli can sport a bikini on the front of People magazine? (Can you say touch up?) Don’t get me wrong, God bless the woman, but she should be holding up her doctors report showing her new and improved vitals, lowered blood pressure, lowered cholesterol, reduced risk of cancer, etc. But instead, she shows that at 48 she can wear a bikini. As a responsible adult, if she and others want to contribute something positive to women’s health and esteem, it should be this, “Lose weight for the good of your health. Lose weight for a better quality of life. Lose weight to be a stronger, healthier, smarter woman, not just to be hot or relevant.”

Those women, (cough, Oprah Winfrey), that claim they struggle with weight loss, (cough,Oprah Winfrey), should once and for all let the weight go and do the right thing which is address the health ramifications that come with extra weight. Do I REALLY want to lose weight to wear a bikini? Sure, its cool, but 20 years from now, who cares? However, if those superstars lose weight and appear on the front of People, they should be celebrating their new vitals versus their new abs. Unfortunately, that doesn’t sell magazines, sad but true.

Look, I’m a personal trainer, I understand all too well that vanity plays a role in the overall weight loss effort, but the problem is that vanity isn’t enough for long-term success. Yet, vanity continues to override what really matters, good health.

Isn’t good health the message that we should be sending to our sisters, aunts, daughters and friends? Losing weight for vanity alone won’t save you. Losing weight and making healthy choices that will eventually contribute to a healthy lifestyle and a healthy body, THAT will save you!! For the love of God man, we’re so missing the boat here.

There have been a number of campaigns in which women speak on behalf of breast cancer or abuse and the atrocities that women have suffered. At the risk of sounding as though I’m minimizing those two issues, I’m not, shouldn’t someone be speaking out about the atrocities of the “push” for thin? Valerie Bertinelli is a perfect example. Women should not be wearing bikini’s to show their self-worth, rather showing their vitality which is the result of living a healthy lifestyle, not sporting a bikini.

Although I applaud Valerie Bertinelli’s weight loss victory, I ask that she and any other women that “sport” their new body share that it’s not just about the size, or the bikini, it’s much deeper than that. Because my friends, I will tell you, unless there is a reason important enough to develop and maintain a healthy lifestyle, people will not do it. Wearing a bikini, or sporting a pair of skinny jeans is a temporary feeling of victory, when you’re 60 or 65 skinny jeans and a bikini becomes irrelevant. Being healthy at 60 or 65 is a far greater victory. Until we are able to make that distinction, bikini’s at 48 years old will trump health every time and in my humble opinion, that’s an atrocity.

Stop Wasting Time Chasing Perfection

By Nicki On March 22, 2009 2 Comments

Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor.–Anne Lamott

This past week I was lecturing at a fitness conference in San Francisco. I love San Francisco, what a beautiful city and better yet, a great place to walk! The hills, oh the hills. I’m in awe of the natives, clearly over 60 years old, who speed by me on an incline that would challenge even the most fit, amazing.

When I travel to lecture, I typically have about an hour a day to check and follow up with email. For some reason, this week I was inundated with a push for the new weight loss “secret,” acai juice. More specifically, the countless spams told me if I want to look AMAZING this summer, I could try the “hottest trend in dieting.” Of course there is a picture of Oprah (which leads you to believe she’s using it) and then in fine print explains it was touted as a super food on her show. What, deception? Misleading? Nah, simply another push to part you with your money. Another deceptive move to have you believe there is a new miracle weight loss “secret” available. I often tell my clients if it’s a secret, it must be a really good secret because I have not read any studies, nor have I heard any great success stories about the weight loss benefits of adding acai juice to your diet. Sure, it’s good for you, but will it MAKE you lose weight? Um, no.

So as we get closer to bathing suit season, and the anxiety levels rise and women everywhere wonder, “When will full coverage bathing suits come back in style?” I offer 5 ways to feel great about yourself this summer.

1. Eat as well as you can as often as you can. I created something super easy to follow, Q2 (Quality and Quantity). In other words, monitor the portions as well as the quality of everything you put in your mouth. It all starts with awareness and if you don’t know where you’re struggling with sound food choices, you’ll opt for what’s easy and not always is that the best choice. The most important tidbit here is to remember one thing, if there’s something you really want, have it. If you give yourself permission, you’re far more likely to stay on track with healthy eating versus feeling like you just committed the worse crime ever! At which point you fall in to the pit of guilt and fall back in to less than healthy eating habits.

2. Eat for health NOT weight. It may sound crazy but trust me, the whole weight loss thing is so much of a mind game, right? So choose not to play the games by making your choices based on what’s the best thing you can put in to your mouth right now. If you think about health versus calories, you just may be surprised how much better you will eat. For example, you eat a Snickers bar because it’s only 260 calories. Now, if you’re thinking health, the Snickers bar probably wouldn’t come in to the equation, well not all the time any way. When you get off the crazy calorie counting, point counting thing and opt instead for more color, healthier options and reasonable portions you’ll be fine. Educate yourself, make it interesting. Learn how certain foods contribute to a healthier you, then it becomes less about calorie based choices (which don’t necessarily mean healthy choices) and more about enhancing your health with solid food choices. Check out my new favorite book, 101 Food That Could Save Your Life.

3. 80/20 rule. 80% of the time, exercise and eat well. 20%, that’s your margin of error called life. 🙂

4. Strength Train. Ladies, hear me? There is nothing better that you can do for yourself, O.K. perhaps there are some other things, but when it comes to your body, feeling strong and lean, there’s no better anecdote to getting lean than strength training. Most women are all about cardio, cardio, cardio. That’s fine, but too many ignore the value of strength training when it comes to acquiring a strong, healthy, functional body. I’m not talking bench pressing 250, I’m simply talking about 2-3 solid strength training sessions per week. If you’re not sure where to start, ask me.

5. Stop searching for perfection and learn to embrace what you’ve got and focus on what’s great. I use to tell my clients that for those of us that have a fully functioning body, exercise is a gift. There are millions of people that can’t exercise for whatever reason, most of us can, so let’s just do it. Exercise is simply an opportunity to give your body what it needs to be healthy and strong. Yet all too often, folks believe exercise is punishment for an imperfect body, not so. Exercise is key to physical and mental health. Do it because you deserve the benefits that will come from regular exercise versus using it as a tool solely to seek perfection, you’ll never be satisfied.

So there you go, some suggestions for you to mull over as you head in to short sleeve, bathing suit weather. Take this year to be the year that you once and for all decide to have fun, stop comparing, stop beating yourself up for not being perfect, no one is. Embrace you, do what you can to celebrate your health and genetic cards dealt and perhaps inspire others to follow suit.

Here’s to a healthier you!

Weight Loss Schemes Just Never End!

By Nicki On March 8, 2009 1 Comment

I’m irritated, really irritated. In the last 4 weeks, I’ve gotten about 100 people asking me to be their friend on either Facebook or Twitter. When I go to review who these folks are, and why they would want to link with me, I realize they are selling Weight / Fat Loss garb. And the real grabber, in the headline of their bio, I read, “Let me tell you how I lost 25 pounds in 30 days!” What? Did you not read MY bio? Did you not see that I don’t buy in to that stuff? Did you not see that every ounce of me detests that kind of message? Did you not get from my brief bio that I stand as far away as possible from quick weight loss schemes?

You see, I lost 50 pounds over 25 years ago, the old fashioned way. I stopped eating fast food, I started riding my bike more and I stopped eating “Breakfast Jacks” while watching the Tonight Show. It wasn’t glamorous, it was healthy. In one year, December to December I lost 49 1/4 pounds and have never put the weight back on. Why? Because I didn’t drop it in 2 months, I didn’t simply seek out any method I could to drop the weight. I decided that my lifestyle was out of control and I needed to change it, pronto! But I also realized at that time, that any changes I made had to make sense and not kill me.

People have died in the name of weight loss, people have gone to extremes in the name of weight loss, people will risk their health to lose weight, I see it all the time. Charlatans prey on those desperate for weight loss. So people seek immediate weight loss schemes and buy in to the “fast and easy” weight loss methods at any cost.

For me, I stick to my same old story, “Change your lifestyle and the weight will follow!” I will never abandon my belief because for every email, tweet, friend request I get promising that if I try their product I can lose 20 pounds in 20 days, I just yell my message a little louder. Their approach is temporary and potentially unsafe, my approach is long lasting (if you’re ready and willing to change) and safe.

Look, we all know that weight loss occurs when we burn more calories than we consume, period, end of statement. Americans eat too much and move too little. The “magic” pills and diets simply reduce your caloric intake, in some instances dramatically so, no duh, you’ll lose weight. But then you want your life back, so you drop the diet or pills or whatever and the weight comes back full throttle.

Everything that I have created, everything that I sell on my website, makes no promises, it simply offers to help you along your journey to living a healthier lifestyle. If weight loss were easy, obesity would be non-existent. It’s not easy, I’ll grant you that. And any company that promises fast and easy is lying. If you really want to get rid of unhealthy weight, you must get rid of unhealthy habits, pure and simple. So here are just a few suggestions that may help you along the way. Oh, and by the way, in order to make changes happen you have to WANT them bad enough. I’ll talk about that in my next blog, “Weight Loss, do you really want it?

* Set Reasonable Goals- Set weekly goals for nutrition and exercise, 3 month goal, 6 month goal and 1 year goal.

* Each week, PLAN, PLAN, PLAN! You cannot be successful unless you plan out your week that includes both exercise and nutrition. What are you going to eat, when are you going to exercise?

* Don’t push pressure on yourself to change everything in a week. As you gained the weight, you didn’t wonder why it was taking so long to put on the weight, did you? So give yourself the same patience when changing your lifestyle, it takes time.

* Bumps in the road are normal, it’s not the end of anything. Lifestyle changes take time and will always need tweaking here and there, it’s life.

* You are where you are, now move on and move up. You cannot continue to focus on all that you haven’t done, it’s time to focus on all that is possible, today.

* Don’t buy in to any thing that promises you fast and easy, it’s nothing but smoke and mirrors.

* Is it really weight loss you want, or simply the byproducts? Often times people confuse weight loss with the things that being healthier brings, more energy, more confidence, less depression, more optimism, etc.

My goal is and always will be to tell you the truth and give you the best information I can. It’s my privilege and my passion.

Another Day, Another Weight Gain Target

By Nicki On February 3, 2009 No Comments

I couldn’t imagine spending my growing up years in front of a camera, or now the unrelenting paparazzi. Every zit, every “bloated” day, every boyfriend, every break up, every ice cream, burrito binge preserved on film, how depressing.

It’s been said that once you opt in to the Hollywood lifestyle, you open yourself up to adulation as well as ridicule. Once a star, you can rise just as quickly as you fall and much of that has to do with paparazzi, no doubt. But I find it interesting that when it comes to a celebrity’s weight or looks, particularly a woman, they are relentless, but so is the rest of the world.
Just a couple of months ago I blogged about Cheryl Burke and a few months before that I was writing about Jennifer Love Hewitt. The paparazzi condemn these women as if they’d committed some heinous crime, and we looked on, and to some degree feel vindicated. “See? Even the rich and famous aren’t perfect.”

But the truth is that no matter how you slice it, the non-stop focus on weight (which for all of these women was actually a healthy weight) we are not only contributing to the mental confusion of grown women about their body but we are contributing to the body obsession of young girls.

We know that girls as young as 9 are dieting and girls as young as 4 are pointing out fat people and saying, “I don’t want to get fat!” Something is terribly wrong here and what’s wrong is that we’ve convoluted health and weight. In doing so, our society has created a very unhealthy expectation for girls and women about their body and overall appearance. It has set women back and set the expectations of performance over “appearance” way back. I think that needs to change – soon.

In reading the numerous pieces on Jessica Simpson’s expanded girth, I was reminded about her unusually thin physique in her “Daisy Duke” shorts and how proud she was of the hours she had to spend in the gym to achieve such perfection. Everyone looked at that body, men with jaws dropping and women with tears falling knowing that they’d never look like that which relegated them to the “frumpy” section of the women’s ensemble.

Every day women are sold millions of products to enhance looks, boobs and body. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love looking great and feeling great, but I certainly don’t want to feel compelled to take my own life because I’m a Size 6, which by today’s standards is “average.” Are you kidding me? It’s been said that designers will make sizes fit more loosely so that women can buy a smaller size. Now I’m all about that for shoes, but for clothes? I think we need to get back in touch with what matters and what doesn’t.

If you think about children growing up, girls are always praised for their beauty, eyes, hair, dresses, etc. Boys are praised for their athletic prowess or brains. We take that in to our adult life although there are those lucky men and women who are raised on a household that actually focuses on performance over appearance, on integrity rather than manipulative ability.

Yeah, Jessica’s put on a few pounds, but so what, hasn’t everyone at some point? Some may say that if she’s basks in the raise of adoration, she needs to take it when she’s hit below the belt. O.K. I’ll buy it if she’s done something really wrong, but gaining weight is part of the cycle of life and for some it’s more challenging than others, Oprah knows only too well.

At 47, my body is changing and thank God, I’m not in the spot light, a little sag here, a little sag there I would rather not have documented. But for the hundreds of women in the spotlight, every wrinkle, cellulite dimple and fat is documented and we all jump on the bandwagon to see what a celebrity looks like in reality. And right there is the piece that we’re all missing when reading about these folks, reality.

I think we all need to take a step back when spending so much time celebrating stars perfections yet, silently doing the same when they fall. I’m sure there’s a much deeper psychological reason for that which I’m not qualified to get in to, but Lord knows I have my theories. Another blog I suppose.

At the end of the day, women need take a step back and stop buying the “stuff” that promises perfection, perfection doesn’t exist, not even in Hollywood.

Sure, go ahead and buy the lotions and creams that keep you healthy, but stay away from the one’s promising to remove 20 years from your face, that would be a face lift and well, no cream in the world can do that. As women, we need to reinforce the value of intelligence, integrity and strategic thinking that all women are capable of rather than chiding them because they’re wearing a V-neck sweater (Hillary Clinton). We need to focus on health and doing all we can to address the many health issues of women. We need to promote exercise not for vanity but for sanity. And most important, we need to preserve the quality of our life by being active and eating well, most of the time and avoiding the black hole so many fall in to in search of perfection.

Movie stars are not reality, they are there to entertain us through film, television and music. Somewhere along the way, the line crossed over in to reality and we’ve come to believe that their lives and their body’s are perfect, they’re not. It’s not cause for celebration it’s simply an opportunity for a reality check.