I’m irritated, really irritated. In the last 4 weeks, I’ve gotten about 100 people asking me to be their friend on either Facebook or Twitter. When I go to review who these folks are, and why they would want to link with me, I realize they are selling Weight / Fat Loss garb. And the real grabber, in the headline of their bio, I read, “Let me tell you how I lost 25 pounds in 30 days!” What? Did you not read MY bio? Did you not see that I don’t buy in to that stuff? Did you not see that every ounce of me detests that kind of message? Did you not get from my brief bio that I stand as far away as possible from quick weight loss schemes?
You see, I lost 50 pounds over 25 years ago, the old fashioned way. I stopped eating fast food, I started riding my bike more and I stopped eating “Breakfast Jacks” while watching the Tonight Show. It wasn’t glamorous, it was healthy. In one year, December to December I lost 49 1/4 pounds and have never put the weight back on. Why? Because I didn’t drop it in 2 months, I didn’t simply seek out any method I could to drop the weight. I decided that my lifestyle was out of control and I needed to change it, pronto! But I also realized at that time, that any changes I made had to make sense and not kill me.
People have died in the name of weight loss, people have gone to extremes in the name of weight loss, people will risk their health to lose weight, I see it all the time. Charlatans prey on those desperate for weight loss. So people seek immediate weight loss schemes and buy in to the “fast and easy” weight loss methods at any cost.
For me, I stick to my same old story, “Change your lifestyle and the weight will follow!” I will never abandon my belief because for every email, tweet, friend request I get promising that if I try their product I can lose 20 pounds in 20 days, I just yell my message a little louder. Their approach is temporary and potentially unsafe, my approach is long lasting (if you’re ready and willing to change) and safe.
Look, we all know that weight loss occurs when we burn more calories than we consume, period, end of statement. Americans eat too much and move too little. The “magic” pills and diets simply reduce your caloric intake, in some instances dramatically so, no duh, you’ll lose weight. But then you want your life back, so you drop the diet or pills or whatever and the weight comes back full throttle.
Everything that I have created, everything that I sell on my website, makes no promises, it simply offers to help you along your journey to living a healthier lifestyle. If weight loss were easy, obesity would be non-existent. It’s not easy, I’ll grant you that. And any company that promises fast and easy is lying. If you really want to get rid of unhealthy weight, you must get rid of unhealthy habits, pure and simple. So here are just a few suggestions that may help you along the way. Oh, and by the way, in order to make changes happen you have to WANT them bad enough. I’ll talk about that in my next blog, “Weight Loss, do you really want it?
* Set Reasonable Goals- Set weekly goals for nutrition and exercise, 3 month goal, 6 month goal and 1 year goal.
* Each week, PLAN, PLAN, PLAN! You cannot be successful unless you plan out your week that includes both exercise and nutrition. What are you going to eat, when are you going to exercise?
* Don’t push pressure on yourself to change everything in a week. As you gained the weight, you didn’t wonder why it was taking so long to put on the weight, did you? So give yourself the same patience when changing your lifestyle, it takes time.
* Bumps in the road are normal, it’s not the end of anything. Lifestyle changes take time and will always need tweaking here and there, it’s life.
* You are where you are, now move on and move up. You cannot continue to focus on all that you haven’t done, it’s time to focus on all that is possible, today.
* Don’t buy in to any thing that promises you fast and easy, it’s nothing but smoke and mirrors.
* Is it really weight loss you want, or simply the byproducts? Often times people confuse weight loss with the things that being healthier brings, more energy, more confidence, less depression, more optimism, etc.
My goal is and always will be to tell you the truth and give you the best information I can. It’s my privilege and my passion.
By Nicki On February 12, 2009 No Comments
I admit it, I’m addicted. Social Media is my reality TV, although I believe the story lines and characters are far more interesting. As a fitness expert I often warn my clients about the hazards of sitting in front of a computer for too long. I tell groups of people at my lectures, “Beware of the internet sites that can suck you in. Before you realize it, you’ve been checking your comments and new members for 2 hours! Your pot of coffee has gone cold and exercise falls to the bottom of your to-do list.”
There’s no doubt, it’s becoming an issue for me. How can I as a fitness expert, someone that encourages others to move, find so much pleasure in social media? My computer is like an magnet, pulling me in, it’s my kryptonite. When I plant my butt in front of my computer, I’m like a toddler in FAO Schwartz store, sensory overload!
I suppose it comes down to practicing what I preach, moderation and balance. Finding the happy medium. The truth however, is these sites give me the opportunity to spread my healthy living message. Though I do wonder if anyone really cares about what I have to say via tweet or “What I’m doing now.”
When I receive a response, “Hey, cool site!” or “Hey, thanks for following,” I wonder if the respondent really ever read my thoughts. I see my thoughts falling into a black hole along with everyone else’s -unread. But maybe, just maybe there are people like me, that have an interest in what people are writing. Those that may actually be intrigued by thoughts, day-to-day issues and some pretty impressive blogs. I do however find myself thinking, “Is this creepy?” I wonder if some of this isn’t verging on the edge of voyeurism? If it is, not only am I guilty, I’m certainly not alone.
And then there’s the whole, “How many connections do you have? How many followers do you have?” I must admit, there’s a bit of a self-esteem issue when I’m being followed by someone with 23,000 members to my meager 150. Should I be embarrassed or flattered that someone that popular is actually following me? I typically go with the latter, the ego can only take so much in a day.
But let’s get back to the topic at hand, will all of this technological interaction help my business? I’m thinking as more people switch their social lives to internet, I could be in for some serious growth. Less movement, more weight gain, more weight gain, more panic and well busier times for moi.
I can see it now, the once active folks that used to go out for cerebral stimulation are opting instead for their computer. As they sit with a glass of wine (depending on the time of day of course. But for some, who knows?) a bowl of peanuts and with one click of the mouse, the “networking” begins. So yeah, I could see how all of this internet networking could be seriously advantageous to my bottom line. I’m liking this.
But wait, then there’s the other piece to this whole equation, me. What if as a fitness expert I suddenly find myself spending more time glued to my chair, engrossed in my tweets versus twiceps? Suddenly, I’m no longer the expert, but a client? Ooh, not good.
I best get back to practicing what I preach, moderation. Although there is no doubt that I dig the interaction and meeting people, I suppose I best seek out the balance. At the end of the day there needs to be a reality check and some real interaction, at least for me. For everyone else, go ahead and Tweet, Twitter, Follow, Tag, Connect and while you’re at it, check this out, just in case that moderation thing doesn’t work for you!
Oh, I just got a tweet. Lance Armstrong is now following me! Oh, it’s another Lance Armstrong. Gotta watch out for those impersonators. For a moment there, I thought I struck Twitter gold!
Here’s to finding the balance.