Nicki Anderson

Don’t Let Technology Trump Family Time

By Nicki On August 4, 2013 Under Being a Mom, Family

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More and more I’m noticing a trend, and I don’t like it.  The trend is families engaging less with each other and more with their iPhones or iPads.

It’s no longer uncommon to see families out to dinner all texting with zero conversation throughout the entire meal. I see Mom’s pushing strollers while talking on their cell phone. And all too often, I see parents in the car at a stop sign, checking their phones and kids on their phones.

Personally, I have a hard time with it and want to gently remind parents that time with your kids is fleeting, don’t miss it by spending more time with your phone than with your kids.

I know, I know the world is changing and maybe I just need to get with the program. However, one thing that never changes in the importance of face time with your children.

When pushing a stroller you may feel that walking behind your child means chatting on the phone with a friend is fine, it’s not. It’s a perfect time to get away from the regular distractions of everyday life. It’s a perfect time to point out nature moments. Or simply to have quiet time.MomIphone2

Out to dinner, really? Please parents, I beg of you. The time with your children is precious and sadly short. There is no more important time with your family than meal time. Put technology away, it will be there tomorrow. Your kids however will be gone before you know it.

Car conversation was invaluable when my kids were little. I was briefed on the daily doings at school, who was  mad at whom and what things happened at school that day, both good and not so good. I miss that time and trust me, you will one day too.

I  understand that there is a new generation of  tech savvy parents, but the one constant is time and it passes quickly.

Next time you’re with your kids, put the phone away and ask that they do the same. You will never get back those precious moments with your kids. And though they may not like the idea of  technology breaks, 20 years from now, they will thank you.

 

Here’s to never wishing for more time, rather making the most of it!

Nicki

2 comments - add yours
Susan G

August 9, 2013

Amen!
Car time was when we had many of the difficult conversations too. Sometimes kids are more able to open up when they don’t have to look you in the eye and the car is a perfect time for that. (Not to mention you are shut into a small space and they can’t easily leave.) This has also been when I have had my best conversations with my two nephews who have Aspergers.

Pushing a stroller while on the phone also means you may not hear the person on the bike getting ready to pass you. I had a situation where a mom on the phone was steering her stroller with one hand (not well, I will add) and did not hear my numerous warnings that I was passing on her left. I was cautious enough that when she lost control of the stroller I was able to avoid bad situation. But not everyone is as cautious as I am.

My other pet peeve is the women on their phones in the grocery store who are obviously gossiping about others based on their side of their very very clearly heard conversation. Especially if they are still on the phone when they reach the cashier. (There are two that are always doing this when I am in the store. Maybe I need to find a new time to do my shopping.)

Nicki

August 13, 2013

Susan – Clearly we are on the same page! The grocery store thing, makes me crazy!